#Fear of success is an oxymoron. It doesn’t make sense by definition. You are attempting to accomplish a goal but when you get within its reach, you sabotage the event so it won’t happen. It’s like a catch-22. You want to succeed but if you do, you anticipate that you will feel depressed, abandoned, unworthy, or lonely.
To succeed you have to give up some things. If you’re dieting, you can’t hang on to your comfort foods. If you’re close to graduating from college, you don’t wait until a week before finals to study. If you want to get off drugs, you can’t hang out with your drug buddies. If you’re dating someone you want to marry, you don’t attempt to force a commitment by getting pregnant.
The core problem is that you don’t feel in your heart you deserve this person or something better. This was exemplified in the life of Gomer, a prostitute. God told her husband, the prophet, Hosea, to marry her. He told him that she would be unfaithful and have children by other men. Hosea followed God’s instructions and took her back after she had children by other men, exemplifying the love and personhood of God.
This story demonstrates that there are destiny moments in your DNA. Whether you choose to accept your gifts and talents is up to you. The power of choice is within you waiting for you to act on your gifts. Gomer, after backsliding like the Prodigal Son, came to a critical point of self-acceptance. Both chose to see themselves as God saw them—forgiven, loved, accepted, filled with the DNA of God and designed to be fruitful, the Head and Not the Tail, regardless of their past mistakes.
This is where we must fight off those negative thoughts that want to sabotage our dreams of success and keep us in bondage to depression, low self-esteem, medication, persons, and antidepressants. We fight off those negative thoughts, by saying and believing what God says about us.
He says we are fearfully and wonderfully made. His will for us is that we have an abundant life. If you choose to believe the lies that others have told you about your past, the enemy (read the inner me) is what is keeping you in bondage and preventing you from succeeding. Your abuser can’t continue to harm you unless you allow that person to do so.
If you need help, get counseling and join a support group even if it’s online. You must pick up your bed and walk if you want to be healed and experience success in your life. Click here for help. If you like this post, please give me a thumbs up, comment, and brighten someone else’s day by sharing it.
For I know the plans and thoughts that I have for you,’ says the Lord, ‘plans for peace and well-being and not for disaster, to give you a future and a hope. Jeremiah 29:11 AMP