The eighth reason #Lisa Firestone Ph.D., gives in her article, #Why Am I Still Single? 8 Reasons People Often Stay #Single, is Rule-making. She states, “Staying open is one of the most important things we can do when looking for a loving partner. Yes, we might get hurt but when we stop taking risks, we reduce our chances of meeting someone we could really have a future with. Relationship rules tend to go hand-in-hand with game-playing…On the other hand, staying open and honest will lead us to find a much more authentic and substantial relationship.”
Ruth had a set of rules too that prevented her from getting married. It’s interesting that in order for Ruth to find her husband she had to let go of her own rules and follow Naomi’s rules. Ruth’s rules told her that she was inferior, a foreigner, too old, but Naomi’s rules told her to do something risky, stay open, and embrace a new way of interacting with her future husband.
In this story, Naomi represents God and Ruth represents those who feel forsaken, lonely, unappreciated, and not marriage material. For women who want to get married, I believe Naomi would call you a princess and say you are entitled, you deserve the best, and no weapon formed against you will prosper.
The key is to say what God says about you. His Word says you are the head and not the tail. His will is that you would prosper and be in good health. God wants you to be happy and fulfilled, not just in your professional life, but in your romantic life. He wants you to have the comfort, attention, love, and care that only a man can give. God’s command is that you be fruitful and multiply.
For those desiring children, he wants you to complete the circle of life and be a happy mother of children. Are your rules preventing you from embracing your Boaz? I dare you to trust God and believe that he will give you the desires of your heart.