Step Five for those desiring to marry is to forgive and forget the past. It is crucial that you don’t bring your old hurts, pains, disappointments, lifestyles, and relationships into your new courtships. Ruth could have chosen to be bitter with life and angry with God because her husband died and she was left alone with an old mother-in-law who couldn’t fend for herself. Instead, Ruth chose to have faith in God that at one time blessed her, but seemed to have abandoned her now when she needed him the most.
Although her mother-in-law was bitter, ironically, Ruth wasn’t. She was optimistic and chose to have faith and hope in Naomi’s God. Her faith was so strong in God that death couldn’t separate her from Naomi or from her God. Boaz, her future husband, was attracted to and took notice of her strong work ethic and her willingness to gratefully accept leftovers. He marveled that this woman had left her own relatives, embraced foreigners, and took refuge in the God of Israel. Instead of being bitter, Ruth was busy getting better.
In an article by Lisa Firestone Ph.D., entitled, Why Am I Still Single? 8 Reasons People Often Stay Single, she lists these reasons as follows: defenses, unhealthy attractions, fear of intimacy, pickiness, low self-esteem, fear of competition, isolation and routine, and rule-making. Ruth with the help of God and her mother-in-law was able to overcome each of these obstacles. She was transparent and embraced her Boaz.
In upcoming blogs, I will examine these obstacles and explain how Ruth dealt with each one and went from picking up leftovers to owning the field and becoming one of the richest women in Bethlehem. God is no respecter of person. You are his princess and he has already set aside a Boaz for believers that are willing to trust him and not statistics, talk show hosts, social media, gossips, and naysayers. I dare you to trust him!