#HowToFindAHusband Step Eight-#FearOfIntimacy

Wash, put on perfume, and get dressed in your best clothes. Then go down to the threshing floor. Ruth 3:3 NIV

If we are seeking a #marriage partner, then we must follow the advice Naomi gave to Ruth—to wash, put on perfume, our best clothes, and go to the threshing floor. Fear of Intimacy, is the third reason #Lisa Firestone Ph.D., states in her article entitled, Why Am I Still Single? 8 Reasons People Often Stay Single, as to why singles aren’t #married.

She explains that with some singles, “The reality is that most people can only tolerate a certain amount of closeness. We are defended about letting someone else in. In effect, on a deeper level, we don’t necessarily want the love we say we want.” In other words, we say we want closeness, but we won’t let others really know us.

If we really want to get married, then we must be willing to go to the threshing floor. It is here that the grain is loosened (our true self, our inner being) comes face-to-face and is separated from the husk (the hard shell, our exterior, who we pretend to be or say we are). Following the advice of Naomi, Ruth laid at Boaz’s feet after he had a good meal and was resting in bed. She then uncovered his feet and waited as Naomi had told her to see what he would do. When asked who she was, Ruth made it clear that she was a woman that didn’t want a one-night stand but wanted #marriage.

I’m informing you now as your Naomi, if you want to get married, it must come out of your mouth before you get to know one another. Clean yourself up, exercise, take care of your body, but you must let your prospective husband know upfront that you want to get married. I guarantee you that if he is a suitable mate, you will not run him off. If he leaves after he has spent time with you and knows that you are talented, a good worker in the field, kind, and generous like Ruth, he isn’t the one for you or he’s not ready for marriage for whatever reason.

Men aren’t like women. They know what they want when they go shopping. Heed the voice of Naomi who told Ruth, “He will tell you what to do.” When your date says, I don’t want to or I’m not ready for marriage, believe him. Men are like buses, if you wait long enough, another one will show up. I dare you to put your trust in God, our ultimate guardian-redeemer.

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