Unhealthy Attractions, is the second reason #Lisa Firestone Ph.D., gives in her article entitled, Why Am I Still Single? 8 Reasons People Often Stay Single, as to why singles aren’t #married. She explains that some singles use defenses to shield themselves from getting hurt again.
When we act on our defenses she says, “We tend to choose less-than-ideal relationship partners… this process is largely unconscious and we often blame our partner for the relationship’s failed outcome.” Many people, she continues, “have an unconscious motivation to seek out relationships that reinforce critical thoughts they have long had toward themselves and replay negative aspects of their childhoods.”
In other words, if our mom was married to an alcoholic, an abusive, loafing or philandering man, we may unconsciously attract alcoholics, abusers, loafers, or trifling cheaters. In some situations, this can be a generational curse that continues because the expectation is this is what we deserve. Those who have had an absentee father in the home may fall victim to this curse because they have never had a role model to teach them what a good father or husband is. Proverbs says, “without a vision, the people perish.”
When Ruth embraced Naomi’s God, she received all the benefits of an heir. Boaz, who represents God, told her to stay in his field with his female workers and drink from the prepared water jars. He instructed his men not to touch her and to leave harvested provision for her.
In other words, when you trust God, he will give you a vision and richly reward you. As his princess, God not only wants to bless you with a loving husband, but he wants to give you more than you can ask or think for a lifetime.
Boaz told her to stay, to abide until the grain is harvested. We as believers must abide and stay committed to Christ for a lifetime. The grain represents lifelong provision, it’s the manna, it’s whatever we need. Naomi gave her earthly confirmation and told her to follow Boaz, “because in someone else’s field you might be harmed.”
Similarly, by following unwise counsel, we may get hurt when we fall out of fellowship with God. He is waiting to richly bless you. Will you trust him?